Friendship and Listening
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.
I have learned over time how important being a good listener really is. Many times we find ourselves with friends that are struggling not knowing what to say. It really doesn’t matter to much the content, as the fact I am there as a friend. I am sure that could be an arguable statement as sure it does matter what is said, but the point being friends just need to know we care and we support them. I have said many times to friends “there is nothing I can say that would make you feel better but know I am here if you need me.” This statement says a lot as it can be quite difficult at times to be a good listener. It is very easy to give our opinions and experiences instead of paying attention to our friend. For those of us who are rarely at a loss for words it can be quite challenging.:) Listening is a skill that has to be practiced as sometimes it does not come easy.
We all have lifetime friends and maybe we don’t see or speak to them very often, but there always is a place in our heart for them. Life gets busy and we get caught up in living everyday we don’t remember to thank them or even contact them as much as we should.
I have told my teenage daughters many times, years from now you will not even remember your old boyfriend’s names but your good friends will still be there. Think for a moment of your old friends and memories from years past, I hope the smile on your face and the love in your heart prompts you to contact them. Make a phone call, write an email, send them this blog but let them know how important they are in your life and much you cherish their friendship.
I am truly grateful for all the amazing friends who I have been blessed to have, and if you are reading this my friends know where ever you are in life, whatever stage our lives have touched you have made a difference.
We should cherish friendship for it truly is a gift. Be a good friend, love well and remember to be thankful for all the wonderful people in your lives.